Learning to Let Go of Mom Guilt in Mexico

The Journey to SHA Mexico

As my plane took off amidst a snowstorm, my husband and our four-month-old son were left behind to face one of the worst storms New York had seen in years. Meanwhile, I was on my way to a beach in Mexico, where temperatures were expected to soar to 27 degrees Celsius.

My destination was SHA Mexico, a wellness retreat located on the coast of Costa Mujeres, just a 30-minute drive from Cancun International Airport. This sanctuary combines ancient natural therapies with modern medical treatments. Here, you can engage in yoga, sound baths, and cell regeneration therapy, alongside remedies like apple cider vinegar and beetroot tea.

The Challenges of Motherhood

I chose SHA because my experience of motherhood extended beyond nine months of pregnancy; it also included three long years of IVF treatments. This journey brought numerous challenges to my physical and mental wellbeing. I struggled with disrupted sleep, poor skin, and inexplicable anxiety—what I referred to as my “Postpartum or Perimenopause?” phase.

Initial health assessments helped me understand my condition better: low estrogen, high cortisol, and significant physical stress. Thankfully, with my husband's unwavering support, my psychological stress remained relatively balanced. Dr. Gabriela Dueñas encouraged me to learn how to relax and reconnect with myself.

The Rebalance and Energize Program

SHA's Rebalance and Energize program includes multiple health assessments and treatment sessions. I began with a blood test to evaluate my overall health. Following that, I participated in various therapies, including massages, water therapies, and postnatal workouts.

My recovery journey was more than just rest. I learned to manage my time to participate in diverse treatments, from electric therapy to breathing exercises. It felt as if the professionals here were already familiar with my story before I even entered the clinic, making everything run smoothly and effectively.

Sharing Experiences with Other Women

During my time at SHA, I met many other women, from young mothers to friends seeking solace. Each had their own story of the pressures they faced. One of them, Noreen Halpern, shared, "Women often don’t talk about the worries and pressures in life." This realization lightened my heart as I opened up about my guilt in leaving my son after just a few months.

Addressing Mom Guilt

On my final morning, I decided to join a psychological counseling session, despite my initial hesitation. That meeting helped me reflect on my experiences and gradually release the guilt I had been carrying. Ana Mayra Guilber, the psychologist, reminded me, "It’s time to treat yourself gently." Those words resonated deeply with me.

After a few days of positive recovery, I returned to a better mental state and felt excited to reunite with my son.

Useful Information for Vietnamese Travelers

For those considering a trip to SHA Mexico, it’s important to note that you will need a visa to enter Mexico. Vietnamese citizens can apply for a visa directly at the Mexican Embassy or through the online system. Flight prices from Vietnam to Cancun range from 15 to 20 million VND for one-way tickets, depending on the booking time and airline.

Additionally, the cost of treatments at SHA Mexico can be quite high, averaging between 5 to 10 million VND for each health package. It’s wise to plan your finances accordingly and consider the timing of your visit for the best experience.

The best time to visit Mexico is from November to April, when the weather is dry and pleasant.

Article reference and editing from: Condé Nast Traveler